You hold your fortune in your own hands when it comes to dating. From what to wear to the topic of discussions, everything matters. You can definitely impress him with your imperial dressing, but at the time of discussion, you can spark all the negativity and drum out your chances of success if you’re not good with your words…
Numerous men complain that women don’t discuss much on the first date, but when they do, they talk about those things in which they’re clueless. And, this thing makes the entire situation painful and invites awkward silences.
I know, during a date, a woman wants to know utmost about a man, and she expects him to reveal his attractiveness through words – especially. Interestingly, men know about this too. However, this thing overloads their minds and don’t let them ponder the situation freely; their minds stop working as some negative, or awkward silence, hit the situation. They lose control and start talking about those things which disappoint a woman to that level where she begins to think that they’re good for nothing.
“The aim of discussion should not be victory, but progress.”
– Joseph Joubert
Men Are Not Good With Words…
Always remember this while dating… If you’d expect too much from a man during the first few dates, especially in the arena of conversation, and if you’d judge him through his words, there is a great chance that you’d often miss quality men.
Actions are men’s latent power; men speak through their actions; you can definitely reject a man after looking at his actions, but if you’d reject him because of his words, it’d be utterly unfair. Several studies have proved (directly & indirectly) time and time again that men are not good with their words. For example: a study revealed that women speak almost three times more than a man, and they’re far better at communication skills too.
So, if communication is your strength, then don’t expect him to play on your strength. Instead, you take the charge. Discuss those things that can impress him and inject you in his mind forever… And, most importantly, “Your target is to flow the conversation smoothly.” Once you do this, everything becomes natural, the anxiety of the moment waters down, and he feels relaxed too in your presence… Now, allow me to share what you can discuss with him, and what can you ask him on a first date.
1 – What do you love to do? It’s the most common question. And, it can open gates for more interesting questions too… Just connect this question with his job, study, and hobbies... You can ask about his leisure time activities too right after asking this question.
2 – What’s your favorite movie/book/singer? And, do you want to make/write/sing some day? This question would often reveal his nature and let you have ideas about his taste. You can add your own opinion too, or tease him in a playful way about his favorite character. For example: ask him to speak like his favorite character; this can provide intense playful moments; you can try to speak like his favorite character too in a playful manner.
3 – Share wishes and goals with each other. This would strengthen the bond and help you both to know each other in a better way. In a way, this would also exhibit the glimpses of the future and help you both to decide whether both of you’re born for each other or not.
4 – Ask for his small help. For example: ask for his advice… Men love to give advices; they feel manly when a woman asks for their advice, or help. It gives them the chance to show expertise and wisdom.
The first impression depends heavily on the first date. The more you would flow the conversation smoothly and inject laughing moments at the right places, the more you would attract him and increase your worth in his eyes… In addition, men love those women too who take charge during conversation; it relaxes them and impel them to believe that they’re spending time with some elite and confident woman. There are much more small ways to attract a man, find out here.
“A man’s character maybe learned from the adjectives
which he habitually uses in conversation.”
– Mark Twain