Some women think men are weird, because they are not as affectionate as women.
I disagree. This is not the utter truth. You can’t expect men to act like women. There is a massive difference between natures and acts.
For example, women can look at each other bodies. They can hug. They can kiss. They can even sleep in the same bed. And, it doesn’t look weird. But, men can’t do this. Men can’t even cry on the shoulders of their male friends. If they cry, they avoid each other for several days to confirm that they are not gays.
Men can’t succumb their nature. Thousands of years, and our society, have built them in that way. Their mind is hard, and their soul is rough. They believe that showing any sign of weakness crushes their respect and demolishes their pride.
All my life, I have seen women accusing men because of three main reasons.
First, men resent successful women.
Second, men are immature.
Third, men love prostitutes.
Especially, during relationship counseling, women raise these reasons a lot. According to them, men have odd feelings, strange ideas, and stupid thinking all the time. In other words, men are the weirdest creatures of this planet. If they can astonish you with their perfection, then they can confuse you too with their stupidness.
I agree with all of this, and I understand the pain of women. Let me tell you what’s the reason behind their weirdness.
Why Do Men Resent Successful Women?
Yes. It’s true. Most men resent successful women; there is no doubt about it. Men find it very threatening to live with a woman who is more successful than them. Their comfort level crumbles and they start to notice every negative side of the relationship.
Consequently, conflicts arise, and the relationship turns into a battlefield.
Why most men do that? What are the reasons?
Well, there are various reasons. For example, it’s in men’s genes to dominate, provide, and protect. When women earn more than men or become successful in their careers, men feel that they are good for nothing, and they have lost the power over their women.
They feel inferior and jealous, and this thing awakens all sorts of fears inside them. They feel that you will leave them for other men, they start questioning your loyalty and love, and they slather the relationship with negativity by focusing on failures – instead of prosperity.
Apart from this, your success makes you appear as a competitor, rather than a loving companion, and compels him to think that his abilities are at stake and he needs to do something for being more successful than you. He starts focusing on his career, or looks for other ways to earn more than you so that he can evince his dominance again.
This approach disconnects him with you on an emotional level and develops a derisive mentality in the relationship.
But, time is changing fast. Men are learning hastily that they can coexist with successful women. Because, politics, sports, and even the courts are no longer exclusive men’s clubs.
Lots of relationship books, online seminars, and happiness’ workshops are influencing men that there is no harm in living with a successful woman. In fact, it’s great. All they need is to change their perspectives about women and look at their relationships with positivity.
If your man also resents your success, just be calm. Handle the situation with love & care. Understand that your success is making him extremely sensitive and emotionally insecure.
Here are few things which you should do:
(a) Start respecting him more.
(b) Start giving him credit for your success.
(c) Ask for his advice on a constant basis.
(d) Stay feminine and loving, make him feel that he’s still the man of your dreams.
(c) Hug him tightly, kiss him passionately, and tell your friends that it was he who supported you all the way.
Why Are Men Immature?
Most men are immature. They don’t solve the issues carefully and turn small conflicts into huge battles. On the other hand, women are very mature. They not only only solve the issues very carefully but also handle them on a case-by-case basis.
When we look at the history, we find mature, masculine, and decent men interested in challenging jobs. They knew how to take the responsibilities and act with patience, confidence, and passion. They raised their girls as the finest ladies and their boys as the masculine men.
But, everything has changed now... I personally blame video games and movies for the destruction of men’s maturity and success. Especially, video games have paralyzed the mind of men by changing their overall nature. Today, men spend more time in playing games rather than doing challenging jobs like their forefathers.
A psychologist at Iowa State University, Dr. Anderson said, “At the very least, parents should be aware of what’s in the game, and what kind of values, behavioral skills, and social scripts the child is learning.”
This statement of Dr. Anderson explains very well that games have the capacity to destroy the maturity of a man...
Now, it would be utterly unfair if I avoid women’s struggles and successes. Women have grown up as the finest ladies, and their maturity level is better than men. They have proved, again and again that they are equal to men. In fact, at some places, they have proved themselves better than men...
I believe, “Women genuinely deserve standing ovation.”
Why Do Men Love Prostitutes?
I know it’s weird, but the simple answer is, “Men love prostitutes because they are not getting what they want at home.” This is a complete truth. I have asked this question from hundreds of men, and almost all of them said the same thing, “We get valuable sex in exchange of money.”
One 2006 study, conducted in Sweden and circulated in the journal ‘Sexologies’, revealed that, “Men have whore fantasy; whores provide them that sex which they don’t acquire from their wives and girlfriends.”
Many prostitutes have reported that most men reach them for satisfying their specific needs and fantasies. They are not interested in overall sex sessions. For example, some men want emotional closeness, some men want fun, and some men want rough sex.
Prostitutes are like antidotes of men’s specific needs. That’s why, according to men, sex with a prostitute is always magical; they are in charge, and they can get what they want. The feelings of dominance, and the fulfillment of their deepest desires, slather them with happiness.
Now, it doesn’t mean all men don’t love their wives. Some men do love their wives, but they don’t feel comfortable enough to express their sexual desires in front of their wives. Feelings of fear and embarrassment compel them to think that their wives will criticize their character and disrespect them whole life.
So, yes, men are weird. But, most of the time, there are reasons behind their weirdness. Perhaps, you are missing something which he needs from you. Perhaps, you are challenging his masculinity with your acts. Perhaps, you are disrespecting him in some way.
Whatever the reason is, I suggest you to stay calm, handle the situation with love, and fulfill his specific need. There is a full possibility that he will listen to you and eliminate his weird behaviors for living a loving life with you.
One married guy asked me, “What’s Happiness?” I said, “I don’t know, I am married too.”
He laughed out loud, but my wife looked at me like I am some alien. After a few hours, as I stepped inside home with her, I knew that I am in trouble, and it’s time to be a politician. She asked me, “What was so funny about that? You insulted me.” I replied with mellifluous smile, “No baby, it’s just a simple joke. I didn’t mean that.”
I truly didn’t mean that. I knew that the other married guy also took it as a joke. Because, guys normally talk like this.
But, my wife was not in a mood to believe me. So, I decided to explain.
I swear. I was explaining in the sweetest way, although some anger was boiling inside me, she suddenly stopped me and said, “I got that part. And, don’t shout while explaining, otherwise I don’t want to hear you.”
I was shocked that how she detected my anger. But, I controlled myself and tried to use my expertise for watering down her temperature. “Baby, I love you. I didn’t mean to hurt you. I won’t do that again, I promise. I am sorry.” I hugged her tightly, and kissed her.
And, thanks to God, the matter was resolved right on the spot.
That day I got that men’s sense of humor is completely different than women’s sense of humor. The jokes I use with men can’t be used by women. There is a huge difference between personalities and nature. Men can even laugh without any reason (It doesn’t mean we are stupid, we just live every moment), but women need some strong reason to laugh out loud.
I give you an example that will evince you that men’s sense of humor is completely different than women’s sense of humor.
I: Baby, I tell you a joke?
I: Once a stupid man held her girlfriend’s hand while driving from LA to California. His girlfriend smiled and said, ‘You can go further’... And, he drove to San Francisco.
(I laughed out loud while telling this joke)
She asked with a serious face: Ok, but why were they driving to California at first place? What’s so special there?
I looked at her with confusing eyes, I knew my joke has been killed.
Movie Directors and Comedians know this secret very well. They know that men and women perceive jokes so differently. For making a woman laugh, they create mental pictures, feelings, and relations that the joke indicate. And, for making a man laugh, they use surprising punch lines, silly activities, and negative situations.
Do you know that negative content is favorite for making a guy laugh? But, when we use the same negative content for creating comedy with women, we always get cold reactions. Because, women associate negativity with frustration, anger, and pain.
You Don’t Need To Crack Jokes
Humor is a masculine thing. Men don’t want you to be funny. I know it would be startling for you to know that, men don’t want a funny woman in their lives, but it’s the truth. Many studies, and researches, have proved that men would love to have a one-night-stand, or a short term relationship, with a funny woman, but for a long-term relationship, they would avoid such woman.
Most men agree that they find a sense of humor attractive in women. But, when you ask them if they will marry a funny woman, their answer will be resounding “NO”.
If you ask me, it was an interesting discovery for me too. I was not getting what do men actually want in a woman? What do they consider funny in a woman?
I read hundreds of books and hundreds of researches for understanding the true psychology of men. I asked the above questions from hundreds of men too. And, luckily, I garnered the true answer.
I came to know that, if you want to be a funny woman, you don’t have to crack jokes.
Instead, “You only need to focus on improving your silly, fun, wild activities.”
Gales of Laughter
Want to bust him into gales of laughter? Do silly, fun, wild activities. Let your man go on talking with his friends about sports and games, you read these below tips and apply them into your day-to-day life for making him realize that you are the most interesting and fun woman on this planet. I bet, you will be amazed at the power you hold.
But, before I begin, it’s necessary to mention one superb quote of Aristotle – A Greek philosopher and teacher of Alexander the Great.
“The secret to humor is surprise.”
If you will do silly, wild, fun acts as a surprise, you will hypnotize him utterly. He’ll be lost in your charm, he’ll fall in love with you, and he’ll wish to keep you as his wife forever. Surprise is the only thing that has the power to turn ordinary into extraordinary. So, keep your moves as surprising for him as you can.
(a) Sing a song while taking a shower, or wake him up in the morning while singing playfully. You can sing his favorite song in a very bad voice for teasing him too. He’ll laugh and enjoy it.
(b) Don’t look at him for an entire day. Stay with him, hug him, kiss him. But, don’t make an eye contact. This will bring moments of laughs. He’ll ask you what happened. He’ll try to make eye contact with you forcefully.
(c) Wear shortest skirts and tall boots. Handcuff him and dance seductively. That’s wild, but it’ll bring his excitement on peak. In addition, you can use crazy wigs (different colors & different styles) for touching a higher level of role-playing. Plus, you can use cowboy hat too while dancing playfully... Be as creative as you can. It’s fun, wild, and sexy.
(d) Men find your few acts very funny and interesting. In other words, they fall in love with you when you do them. For example, men love when you show your ‘Unshakable Faith’. They love when you tell them you don’t want them to die. They love when you watch sports and make sex with them right after their favorite team’s victory. They love when you wear something belong to them... These are silly and fun acts, but men love it completely.
(e) Wear red lipstick and slather his face with your kisses before he wakes up.
(f) Want to be a ‘Fashion Model’? Do a fashion show. Ask for his reviews about your dresses and shoes. Walk playfully like a model in front of him. He’ll smile all the way and wait for you to finish the fashion show so that he can pick you up in his arms and take you to bed.
Your wild, silly, fun acts make us laugh and help us to escape from unwanted thoughts and emotions. You have no idea how much attractive and interesting you look to us. We feel like making this world a heaven for you...
Come on get happy. Don’t worry about being right. Venus, planet of love, dancing in your house and you are thinking about being right? Seriously?
Don’t slather your happiness with your ego for being right. This is not the time. You can evince yourself right later, when the moment is right and when all the cards are favoring you.
You can’t garner happiness by imprinting that you are right all the time. If you will try to do that, either he will feel inferior or situation will turn into a battlefield. You can fulfill your ego like this, but you will murder the quality of your relationship too.
Relationships are sensitive. Extremely sensitive. Simple things can make or break them. A small conflict, rude smile, and egoistic look can set the foundations of infidelity. We cry and blame our partner, but we don’t realize that there were some simple, negative things that were already playing their role in the malicious outcome.
Words Are Beautiful
Your words paint the picture. Never use them as a weapon.
When your words impose that you are right all the time, your relationship begins to crumble. You unconsciously assassinate his character, and damage his ego. Consequently, he feels resentful and try to dominate you through verbal aggression.
Hundreds of women asked me this question: “He is verbally aggressive, what should I do?” And, I always tell them, “Don’t be right all the time. Don’t impose that your decisions and your mentality are superior than him. This thing injects aggression in his veins and compel him to assault you verbally.”
I know you are honest. I know you love him. I know that you think good about him. But, your way is not right. When you correct him, it appears to him that you are trying to impose he is inferior and you are superior. Only you know what’s right and what’s wrong. He is a brainless child with immature character who has no value in your eyes.
He goes berserk.
He refuses to give in. He quarrels to dominate and does a good deal of damage to the relationship. Destructive fights start to take a permanent place in your life and signs of unhappy marriages begins to appear. After some time, you both either suppress your emotions or withdraw from the relationship.
Now I am not saying that you shouldn’t fight. Of course, you should fight. But, it should be a ‘Constructive Fight’. Constructive fight is ‘Improved Communication’. It’s a fight in which you assure him that you are proud of his some decisions, you value his maturity, you believe that he has an ability to resolve problems, and he is the best among other men.
Instead of demeaning his character with your words, let him experience his own bad decisions. Let him realize by himself that he is on a mistake, and his acts are not only damaging his own personality but also hurting your feelings.
You just focus on using your beautiful words for respecting his personality, relaxing his emotions, and igniting fires of love in his heart. Your beautiful words keep his mind soft. They keep him in the state of listening and understanding... He shares his feelings with you. He discusses his plans with you. And, he always agrees with you.
If you think he’s making some major mistake, or the decision he is going to imply will create trouble for you, then say: “Honey, you are saying right. I agree with you. I’m amazed how you resolve things so easily. I love you!” After that, hug him, kiss him, and say again, “I am just not getting this point. Please tell me more about it... Can’t we do like this?”
These beautiful, simple sentences will always work like magic. They will help you to seem like the most mellifluous lady of this world. He will also slather himself with the feelings of love, and reply you with the best possible manner. Your beautiful words will keep his mind soft and influence him to agree with you if he is on a mistake.
So, stop imposing that you are right all the time. Instead, use beautiful words. He will be influenced automatically.
Happiness Is Sexy
Happiness is sexually stimulating. The more you stay happy, the more you stay beautiful, the more you stay attractive, the more you relish romance, and the more you have sex.
You live like a queen.
Your happy face, happy energy, and happy laugh have an immense amount of power. You can’t even imagine it. If today you will stay happy, tomorrow you will end 80% of your problems. Your happy state will attract your man and compel him to think what he adds into your life. He will love to spend time with you and find more ways to keep you happy.
It’s a natural phenomenon.
The ladies who stay happy, get more gifts, more affection, more love, and more sex. Happiness is like a drug. It’s sexy. It attracts everyone.
When men cheat, what do you think, do they spend their time with some unhappy, average woman? Of course not. There will always be a happy, radiant woman who will attract him and allure him to cheat. When men live with an unhappy woman at their home, a happy woman always looks like a heaven to them.
That’s why, whenever my clients come to me with their problems, I always advise them to stay happy first. Because, I know, happiness not only protects the relationship but also resolve 80 percent of the conflicts immediately. When your man see you happy, he doesn’t want to bring anything negative in the relationship. He wants by himself to resolve the issues as soon as he can so that he can spend his time in your arms, in a happy mood.
Savour Small Details
Happiness is in the details. Small details. You don’t need to wait for some special occasion for expressing your happiness. The more simple you are, the more it’s better. I’ve put together 3 special tips for you that can put you in the state of happiness every day.
(1) Play your favorite music and dance. Or, learn to dance with him with the help of dance-learning DVDs. Playful dancing slather you with happy aura and garner moments of laughs and closeness. Both of you do silly, fun things while learning dance and laugh out loud. Plus, your flirtatious, silly moves hypnotize him completely.
(2) There are various studies that have proved that, “Happy Visuals Create Happy Life.” That’s why, there are many people in our society who love to hang romantic paintings on their walls. And, you believe it or not, those romantic paintings significantly increase happiness and romance in their lives – various researches have proved it too.
(3) Laugh together. Play together. Smell roses together. Taste food together... You ought to do this. Because, this is a wonderful pattern for creating intimacy and staying happy.
“Tell Me More...”
A powerful sentence that makes others feel that you are truly ‘Listening’. It connects you with others on a very deep emotional level. Your spouse, boss, clients, friends, and even strangers sense that you understand them on a very deep emotional level.
Psychiatrists use this sentence on their patients.
Psychologists use this sentence on hostage takers.
Investigators use this sentence on terrorists.
This sentence has such a power that pulls people towards you. People feel that you are deeply interested in their every word, every feeling, and every emotion. They think you are their best friend, and the most understanding person of this planet.
“Yes darling, you are right. 2+2=5. I agree with you. Tell me more...”
Use this strategy, and end conflicts of your relationship immediately. Yes. Immediately. When your partner is angry or depress, just use this strategy, even if you feel that his words and ideas are not reasonable. It doesn’t matter you agree or not. You just need to make him feel that you are truly listening to him, and you feel what he’s feeling.
What most couples do during conflicts? They take out AK 47 guns and point at each other. Birds stop chirping, neighbors run for their lives, and a romantic movie starts to look like a horror movie within few seconds.
Husband feels like she doesn’t love him. Wife feels like he doesn’t care about her. Children feel like where the hell we have been trapped.
There is a Reason
There is always a reason behind conflicts. If he’s fighting with you on a stupid, little thing, or if he’s provoking you with his weird habits, then think what’s causing him to act in this way before jumping into conclusions. You will always find a reason behind his anger, bad-mood, depression, or weirdness.
Whatever is the reason, it doesn’t matter. The thing that matters is, he wants to be heard. He wants you to agree with him, at least for that moment, and assure him that you are always with him, no matter what.
Don’t give him the road of resistance, instead, give him the road of sloppiness. Counterarguments, disagreements, and yelling are the roads of resistance. They help the other person to move away.
On the other hand, listening, agreements, hugs, and smiles are the roads of sloppiness. When he tries to move away, the sloppiness of the road always slip him towards you... Eventually, he opens his heart, shares his feelings, and gets happy that he’s got the most understanding companion, and he’s in the most beautiful relationship.
My friend, Sherlyn, is the most famous relationship counselor in her town. Now, obviously, there are other famous relationship counselors too. But, I was interested to ask that how she forms true friendships? Why couples keep on sending her gifts after visiting her once? Why famous, rich people invite her on special occasions? And, how she earns much more than other relationship counselors of the town?
I agree. I asked her these questions through business point of view. But, she told me some wonderful things which utterly associate with relationships & communication. It was a wonderful discovery, and I was impressed by her techniques and step-by-step strategies.
She told me that she has a certain set of questions. The questions which assure the other person that you are not only listening intently but also understanding their core feelings very well.
This strategy automatically puts you closer to their heart. They start sharing things with you, they start giving you gifts, they start inviting you on special occasions, and they start taking advices from you time and time again. You become a very special person for them.
Below are her questions which she uses in almost every interaction.
1. "Why are you so upset/angry/happy/lost? What’s so special?"
This question is the weakest brick of the strongest wall. Once you pull out that brick, the whole wall crumbles. It also helps you to prove that there is something special which no one else notice but only you. These questions work well with strangers too – especially, if you are eager to make new contacts, or new friends.
2. "I want to know. What happened? And then?"
It shows your interest and display that you are intently listening
3. "Yes. You are right. Then?"
It makes the other person feel that you are standing on his side, and he’s not alone.
4. "Now what is your plan? What part can I play to help you?"
That’s how you express your enthusiasm for the welfare of others. You practically involve yourself in the situation, and compel the other person to feel that you are the most important part of his life. He can trust you fully, and he can talk to you freely. You exceed his expectations and take more steps ahead than his friends, and evince yourself as the most loyal, special person.
5. "Let’s meet tomorrow and solve things..."
It helps you to spend more time with him. The more you spend time with him, the more he shares his secrets with you. You both reach each other on emotional levels and start celebrating successes and events together.
Give him the freedom to say every single word. Ask about each and everything. Let him tell you what he wants. Let him tell you what he’s planning to do. If there is 100% to say, make him say 110%. And, assure him that you are with him all the time.
Don’t think about interrupting him when he is taking out his feelings in the form words. Because, this can be expensive. Most of the women, and men too, try to slather their partner’s feelings with their own thinking... Consequently, destructive misunderstanding starts to emerge or battle occurs right at the spot.
Mostly we interrupt the other person when we feel that he is going to impose the wrong decisions. If this is your problem too, and if your man mostly imposes wrong decisions in anger, don’t worry about it. Just let him speak, support his feelings, and agree with his words.
After a few hours, or after a few days, his bad feelings will melt down. His emotions of love will return. His logical mind will start to work, and he will begin to think what’s right and what’s wrong. 99 percent of the time, he will replace his wrong decisions with the right ones.
In case, you feel that he’s still standing on the wrong decisions. Just tell him what you feel about his decisions. Tell him the disadvantages of it. Give him logical reasons. Show him the other right path... He will listen to you and agree with you.
Just don’t try to change his decisions, and don’t try to correct him when he’s speaking out his feelings. In fact, hug him, kiss him, and say, “Tell Me More”.
Let him collect himself first, and let him come into the ecstatic state. After that, it’s your turn to play the card...
Warriors turn into poets, leaders kneel down in front of their wives, and geeks start to use the computer with slow internet.
Finest ladies know this secret. That’s why, men revolve around them like the planets revolve around the sun. They make men utter out the most sweetest words by keeping their brains soft all the time. Their smile, dresses, attitude, and energy transform men into “Yes Mam!” robots.
Some women think that men are sex objects, and there is some weapon hidden inside their pants which work 24/7. Just light up the fire and run for your life.
This is not the complete truth. I partially agree with you, but I won’t blame the men. This is because, men’s priorities are different. It doesn’t mean they don’t love you. They just prefer sex before love. It’s their default psychology. And, that’s where they always make the mistake.
For women, the series goes like this: Smile, Conversation, Feelings, Love, Romance and Sex. Now, of course, this series is brilliant (I am not mad to disagree), but it tortures the patience of a man. It’s like you invite some wrestler inside the ring, and instead of fighting, you teach him how to do salsa-dance.
Don’t Let Him Enter Inside The Ring
If you will, it will be his right to do sex.
Communication, Romance, and Love. Their places are outside of the ring. You can’t introduce these things inside the ring of ‘Sex’. If you will, the situation will be complexed. You won’t get you should watch a movie alone, or shouldn’t watch at all – at night on your bed.
This will puzzle your man too. He won’t get what you actually want. He will be trapped and entered into a coma state.
You always need to give him clear directions, if you want a long term, happy, secure relationship. This will give you two special benefits.
First, he’ll love you for that. Because, he doesn’t know what to do exactly. By clearing the directions, you will relax his feelings, water down his anxiety, and remove the misunderstandings.
Second, you’ll have a chance to check his patience. If he moves right according to your directions, he deserves your love & attention. But, if he doesn’t move in your directions and tries to do sex forcefully, he’s probably not born for you.
When a man truly loves someone, emotions become more valuable to him than sex. Even if you’ll tell him to wait for you for 1000 days, he will. Your wishes will always be his top priorities.
Now, don’t try to check his love for you by forcing him to wear pink slippers and bubble-pattern shirts. This would be totally unfair.
Love Has Stages
I have a friend who always deal with troubles in her relationships. Because of her ego, she was not interested in any kind of advice. According to her, if there is true love, you don’t need any advice or counselling.
On the other hand, I always differed her this mindset. Because, I believed that love has stages. If today you are standing on the beginner stage, then tomorrow you have to move your love towards the intermediate stage, and after that, you have to stand like a champion on the expert stage of love. You definitely need advices, tips, and ideas to keep the love grow in the most beautiful manner.
You can’t keep on standing on the beginner level all your life. You have to upgrade yourself, your lover, and your love – on a constant basis. And for that, you must keep on learning new tricks and tips so that you can not only keep his brain soft but also turn the temporary love into eternal love.
Here are the top 5 ways to keep his brain soft.
(1) Semi-Public Places are the best for romantic/naughty conversations. For example: Museums, Stranger’s Garden, Cinema, Fields, Cruise Boat, and Elevators.
(2) Playful thumb-wrestling. Especially, if he’s your friend, and you want to turn him into your lover. This game is not only safe, it also helps you to stay in his thoughts for a long time.
(3) Sexy Underwears, Short Skirts, Lingeries, and Sexy Makeup are the finest weapons of the finest ladies. These things are designed exclusively for the eyes of men and keep their brains soft all the time.
(4) What’s your signature perfume?
(5) Daily stimulate his no. 1 erogenous zone – his Eyes. You can do this through several ways. For example, playfully dance in front of him, ask him to teach you something, take mischievous photos with him, and show your every expression clearly – Men love your expressions.
What’s Your Seduction Strategy?
I have a friend who says, “If there is no seduction, there is no love.” I feel it’s true. Because, it keeps the brain soft and excite the feelings of love.
Seduction is in every form. It’s in real-time. It’s in pictures. It’s in memories. Cavemen used to draw their love on stones and walls. Kings used to paint the pictures of their queens.
And today, “Husbands keep the pictures of their wives inside their wallets.”
Any girl can seduce a man. It’s easy. But, the thing that matters is your ‘Strategy’. If you will seduce the feelings of your husband every day, he’ll worship you whole life.
Because, when his brain is soft, he doesn’t want to introduce anything negative in the relationship. His brain is slathered by positive, happy feelings. He just wants to enjoy the anthem of love all day, day to day.
In the end, I want to say, It was startling for me knowing that, more than 80% of women use sex to make their men assist around the house. This ratio was quite higher, more than my expectations. And I was thinking, if women focus more on their seduction strategy rather focusing on giving sex immediately, the whole game can be easily changed... Instead of worrying about household works, they can live like the “Finest Ladies” of this planet.
If you love Tom Cruise, it doesn’t mean I love him too. I don’t understand, why do you love him so much? What’s so special about him?
By the way, I know that you love Persians too. But, if you ask me, Egyptians were better than persians... Seriously, your choices and likes are weird.
And, is he your boyfriend? Are you serious? What did you find attractive in him? If you look at him through my eyes, you’ll realize that he doesn’t love you. He doesn’t care about you. He’s irresponsible and cheater... I truly doubt your judgments.
I am I & You are You
Every person is different. If your man likes you, then it certainly means you possess some qualities which others don’t. You – directly & indirectly – attract his emotions through your acts and ignite the feelings of love in his heart again and again with your nature.
Drop your qualities today, he’ll leave you tomorrow.
Yes. It’s true... He’ll stop liking you and find some other girl that possess qualities like you or more than you.
The actual problem is, right now, you literally don’t know what qualities you possess which attract your man, or other specific men. And, I understand this confusion. Because, this topic hasn’t covered yet properly. I’ve searched hundreds of relationships’ websites, and unfortunately, no one has given a proper, satisfactory answer.
I’ve asked this question to some women: “What does your man love about you?” And, I got interesting replies. Some said, he loves their beauty. Some said, he loves the sound of their laugh. And some said, he loves their intelligence.
Yes. That’s matter what they told me. But, that was just the 1% which they know. The 99% percent of the game was still not in their minds, which they were playing unconsciously.
After that, I asked one more question, “How many of your friends like your man?” And, interestingly, the average answer was 30%. The other 70% of their friends and family members were not truly happy with their man, their likes, and their choices.
How Likeness Works?
It works in various ways. For example:
(a) If your man loves A, B, C, and D, and you possess B and C, he’ll like you. But, if some other girl appears in his life and possess B, C, and D, he’ll like her more than you.
(b) If you tell him bad news more than the good news. He’ll like you. But, if some other girl appears in his life and tells him good news more than the bad news, he’ll like her more than you.
(c) If you are with him, he’ll like you. But, he’ll like that girl even more who’ll have his welfare in her mind, who’ll make him feel again and again that she’s always on his side, and who’ll work with him to help him achieve his targets.
(d) If you are successful, beautiful, rich, and sexy, he’ll like you. But, he’ll like that girl even more who has his verbal style, who comply his political opinions, who follows his religion, and whose mood and nature matches with his mood and nature.
(e) If you wear sexy or expensive dresses, he’ll like you. But, the girl who wears dresses according to his sense of style, he’ll like her even more.
Are you starting to understand why you like Tom Cruise, but I don’t?
It’s because his sense of dressing, verbal style, opinions, mood, and nature match with you but not with me. He possesses H, I, J, and K qualities which fully link with your inner wishes and compel you to fall in love with him.
Now I love R, S, T, and U. And, unfortunately, there is only one person that possesses R, S, T, and U qualities... And, that’s Johnny Bravo.
Extra Private secrets
There are some more private secrets that boost our levels of likeness. World’s best speakers, writers, and salesmen often use them in order to be more likeable and interesting. Even if they poop in their pants, we still love them and think that it’s something very creative and extraordinary.
First, let’s talk about ‘Public Speakers’ and what are their private secrets for being likable. Public Speakers exploit the power of “Stories”. They hit your wishes by telling you several interesting stories and motivate you by showing you the end result. After reading hundreds of books and researches, they know that they have just a few minutes from start to capture your attention, after that they don’t need to fight for your attention. So, interesting short “Stories” are the best things that help them dominate your mind.
Now, during story time, there are two factors that compel you to like them – “Motivation & Good News”... When we motivate someone, we automatically put ourselves in the dominating position. We indirectly demonstrate that we are powerful, strong, and authoritative . In addition, when we say ‘Good News’ in the end and leave people in a happy state of mind, we associate ourselves with good feelings. And, as a result, people like us forever.
On the other hand, ‘Writers’ almost use this same strategy. They play with your fantasies through their words and introduce those hobbies, habits, moods, and scenes that somehow relate with you, and with your needs.
But, the best salesmen, God bless them, they are the sharpest people. If we use 10% of our minds, then they force us to use 20% of our minds. In the end, our mind doesn’t tolerate that much sharpness, and we free ourselves by buying immediately what they are offering. They are the people who can easily sell Newton’s idea to Einstein and Einstein’s idea to Galileo.
So, always respect them.
It’s been researched that people who are likeable, are always the best sellers. And, world’s best salesmen know this secret very well. They use several weapons of likeness. First they raise positive feelings inside us by giving some specific compliment. Then, they associate themselves with us in any possible manner. For example, they ask us where do we live, and then tell us that it’s their wife’s home town and they really like that place, and they are thinking to move there with family. They ask us some questions about our home town and indirectly take our expert advice in a friendly manner. This thing makes us feel good, and we think that they are our best friends.
After that, they tell us some startling, best point about their product right according to our need, and inform us it’s the last piece of this world and no one will ever produce it again till the judgement day.
We feel like we are the luckiest people in the entire world. Because, first, it’s the last piece. And, second, we are buying it from our best friend...
So, this is how ‘Likeness’ works on a deeper level. If you employ these above strategies in your relationship, the floodgates of abundance will be opened, and your man will love you forever.
Oh, by the way, I love Tom Cruise too. He’s my favorite actor.
You know how to love, but you don’t know how to make someone love. Your cheeks often meet with your tears of love, and your emotions wreak the storm of silence for you. You grieve and think, Is love really everlasting?
Yes. Love is everlasting!
You just require your mind with your heart. Because, heart loves, and mind earns the love. You can’t solely rely on your heart in life long odyssey. The heart doesn’t perceive many things. It only knows how to give, not how to receive. It makes other senseless by giving too much...
When you only rely on your heart, value of emotions decrease, and love moves towards its old age. Such cracks in relationship appear that never wash off whole life.
On the other hand, little use of mind keeps the love young and radiant. It not only makes the love everlasting but also keep your lover inside the ocean of love. And, when love collides from both sides, true colors of life emerge. You feel the strength of your relationship and stay happy with your lover forever.
Here I am going to tell one specific situation in which use of mind is more important than emotions of the heart. Because, as I said before, “Heart doesn’t perceive many things.”
His Stupid Questions
What do you want from me? Am I right? What’s wrong? Is he/she really your best friend?
Questions. Apparently small. But, they have the capacity to shatter any relationship. Generally, these are stupid questions for women. They get mad and reply in anger. They don’t understand why men ask such questions.
Some women think: Men already know the answers, they just tease them.
Some women think: Men ask such questions because they feel insecure.
But, this is not the case.
The important thing is, there are two disadvantages when you think like this, or reply in anger. First, fight happens. Second, your man avoids asking such questions in the future – which is very harmful for a loving relationship.
So, why does a man ask such questions?
I give you a small example.
The way a woman wants to hear – again and again – that her man loves her a lot. Similarly, a man wants to hear from his woman, again and again, that she loves him a lot. Just his way of listening & asking is different.
There are two basic reasons behind this nature of a man. First, he doesn’t grasp what are you actually thinking. Second, he wants to stay your ‘First Priority’ forever...
It’s not his mistake. Nature has built him in that way. That’s why, he takes support of questions.
If he asks you questions like: What’s wrong with you? What do you want from me? Am I right?
Understand that he truly doesn’t know what you want, and what’s going inside your mind. He needs a clear direction from you so that he can act correctly. He doesn’t want to do those things that can hurt you, or take you away from him.
Apart from this, if he asks you about your best friend, or about some specific man, then it doesn’t mean he’s insecure. In reality, it means he wants to hear his importance for you. He wants to hear that he’s still your best friend, ‘First Priority’, and everything... When you give importance to some other man, or woman, in any way, he feels inferior and hurt.
He doesn’t care what others think about him. The only thing that matters to him is ‘You’. And, he wants you to validate your ‘Love Feelings’ for him, again and again.
And, when you do this, you open the floodgates of love in his heart for you.
If you ask me, I will say that you should be happy in the fact that your man asks such questions. Because, this demonstrates that he still loves for you.
When a man doesn’t love, he doesn’t ask such questions . In other words, he doesn’t care... So, you should be happy if he’s asking you some stupid questions... Hug him. Hug him tightly. And, answer his questions in mind of love. He wants to hear how much you love him.
Small differences lead to big results. The results which distinguishes 'the best' from 'the good', glean the pearls of happiness from the grounds of disappointment, turn a normal morning into a good morning.
Good housekeeping, delicious cooking, and warm moments aren't the specific factors that make you the best wife in the eyes of your husband. These are the qualities of a good wife, and their husbands definitely love them because of their these qualities.
But, you not only want him to love you. In fact, you want him to worship you with love and keep you as a queen forever.
You want to become "the best wife".
What if I tell you, for being the best wife, you don't need to work 24/7 as a housewife?
What if I tell you, you don't need to keep him happy all day?
What if I tell you, you don't need to worry about other women?
Yes. It's true! What I have mentioned is true... You just need to dominate small differences to create big results. Small differences make you seem as the best wife by exceeding your husband's expectations.
Below are some examples for you.
1. A good wife gives her husband the feelings of security by showing him that she is capable of everything, whereas the best wife gives her husband the feelings of "Protector" by displaying that he is powerful and she needs his help. Consequently, he protects her throughout his life and cares about her every need.
2. A good wife often highlights her accomplishments in front of others... The best wife mostly highlights ‘His’ accomplishments and let others know that she is proud of him.
3. A good wife tells the partial truth for keeping the relationship secure and happy. On the other hand, the best wife tells the complete truth. She describes 110% of the situation and asks for her husband's help too.
4. A good wife explores her husband's complex feelings as soon as she can... The best wife gives her husband some time alone, because she knows that he needs peace, not talking, when his feelings are complex... "A man can't function at his peak if he doesn't have any time alone in peace."
5. A good wife makes her husband fall in love with her only through household works, whereas the best wife can jiggle his heart with love through a simple blush. She doesn't rely on a single method, and holds several weapons of attraction.
6. A good wife stays with him during his hard times, but on the other hand, the best wife takes action to end his hard times and boosts his positivity by motivating him.
7. A good wife gives him a compliment on special occasions... The best wife gives him compliments daily and keep his feelings dynamic.
8. A good wife judges her husband's love through his words, whereas the best wife judges his love through his "Actions".
9. A good wife keeps herself like a 'Princess'... The best wife keeps herself like a 'Queen'. She shows her authority, she lives by her own rules, and her time is always more valuable than others.
10. A good wife focuses on being sexy, whereas the best wife focuses on being gorgeous.
11. A good wife respects him as a husband... The best wife extremely respects him as the 'King' - especially in front of others.
12. A good wife watches the sunset with her husband at the seaside... The best wife not only watches the sunset at the seaside but also have a sand castle competition with her husband. She gleans the seashells, clean them, take them home, and decorate them in her room, and keep the romantic memory alive forever.
13. A good wife celebrates the birthday, whereas the best wife celebrates the birthday week!
14. A good wife tries to bring excitement into her relationship by doing the expected things... On the other hand, the best wife does things "UNEXPECTEDLY". Her ideas for romance are most outrageous, fun, and unpredictable. Consequently, the excitement stays alive all the time and her husband feels lively throughout the relationship.
15. A good wife knows that her husband's favorite color is blue... The best wife knows that her husband's favorite color is ‘Royal Blue' – which moves closer toward the purple. Plus, her husbands like ‘Ultramarine Blue' and ‘Oxford Blue' too. The best wife knows her husband's choices and likes on a deeper level.
16. A good wife mostly stays humble during sexual moments... The best wife doesn't hesitate to take charge during sex. She also does very unusual, fun things for electrifying the moments of sexual desire. For example: she wears different hats, have sex fully clothed, play sex board games, or make a ‘Sex Contract' every month just for having fun.
17. A good wife is a housewife, whereas the best wife is the ‘Home Maker'.
So, it really feels good to grow, and it feels good to become the best. You don't have to take part in a war, or play politics, for being the best. Just a few small changes can make you the best wife, and make your man worship you whole life.
I have observed a lot of women who don't understand why their men feel unloved. They do everything in their power to meet all the needs of the relationship. They provide sex. They do good housekeeping. They fill their man’s stomach with delicious food. But still, their men paint an unloved picture of them.
Their men keep on complaining, keep on fighting, and keep on feeling unloved all the time.
That's so disheartening! And, a dangerous situation too. Because, when a man feels unloved, he tries to find love somewhere else. Some other woman takes your place in his heart...
Therefore, it’s always better to solve this problem as soon as possible.
Keeping a man happy is not an impossible dream. Fortunately, you just need to employ one specific strategy.
"Fulfill His Demand."
Yes! That's it!!!
Focus on fulfilling his demand only. That's how he will feel loved.
- If he wants you to be a better cook, just be a better cook. Focus on cooking delicious food.
- If he wants you to encourage him, then encourage him. Appreciate his efforts, give him positive feedback, motivate him.
- If he complains about your negative behavior, be positive. Laugh openly. Relish life. Celebrate everything.
- If he wants you to pay attention to good housekeeping, just focus on doing good housekeeping.
- If he wants to spend quality time with you, be affectionate and spend time of love & harmony with him.
Just fulfill his demand, and don’t worry about the other things. This is the only strategy you need to make your man feel loved. Because, other things don’t matter to him. The only thing which matters to him, he always demands it from you. And, when you fulfill his demand, he feels like he has got the best woman on this planet. He starts worshipping you with love & affections.
Let me give you a few more examples.
Let’s say, I love non-fiction books. But, my wife gives me novels, science books, and biographies as a gift and expects me to be so much happy, because she has done so much for me. Do you really think I would be happy according to her expectations? Or, will I feel resentful because she doesn’t understand what I actually love?
Let’s say your husband badly desires your encouraging & positive words, but you keep on pointing out faults in him and discourage him all the the time. Do you really think your other works – like cooking, sex, and household services – will make him feel loved?
Of course not!
If your man desires ‘A’. Focus your attention on ‘A’. Don’t worry about B, C, D, and F; they won’t make your man feel loved... Your focus on ‘A’ only will make him feel happy & loved. Because, ‘A’ is your man’s primary need.
You must have seen many relationships in which you don’t understand how a man is happy. Because, his woman doesn’t do anything. She doesn’t cook. She doesn’t pay attention on housekeeping. She doesn’t know anything about fashion... But still, her man keeps on showering his love on her. He just keeps her as a queen.
The thing you don’t understand is that, that woman must be fulfilling his one specific natural demand – consciously or unconsciously. That’s why he feels so happy and loved. He feels that he has got the best woman of this world. And in return, he does everything in his power to keep her happy too.
Now, let’s talk about you. What do you demand the most in the relationship? Do you demand quality time? Do you demand romance? Do you demand him to help you with housekeeping? Do you demand sex? Or, do you demand fun?
If you also have some specific demand, ask him to fulfill it. Don’t order him. And, don’t force him. Instead, after fulfilling his demand, and after making him feel loved, just tell him with love what makes you feel loved. And, tell him your demand... Once you make him understand with love that what makes you feel loved, he beams with excitement and redouble his effort to fulfill your demand.
There must be something which you demand specifically. And, you know that, if your husband will fulfill your that specific demand, you will feel loved. You’ll have positive feelings for your husband. And, you’ll feel that you are in the most beautiful relationship.
Your man is exactly like you. He must have one specific demand. Fulfill it. He’ll feel loved and spread happiness around you all the time.
Sometimes, your man doesn’t listen to you. He doesn’t prize your feelings. Especially after the wedding, he fritters away his time in his office, or with his friends... If he lingers in the home, he watches a movie, reads books, or play video games.
You become a valueless creature for him, and he stops taking interest in you.
For a wife, or a girlfriend, this situation is very disheartening. Because, she wants to share things, she wants to express her feelings, and she wants to feel an emotional connection. And, all of this happens only through meaningful conversations.
If your man doesn’t listen to you, then this is very alarming. It shows that the feelings of love are going to kiss the dust and the strength of your relationship is about to get wrecked.
I have a solution for you.
“Become an Emotional Storyteller”
Emotional stories have the power to engage people and activate their minds. The true leaders, motivational speakers, and famous artists know this secret very well.
The story can be about anything. It can be about your daily routine, it can be about some specific incident, it can be about your achievement, or it can be about some tittle-tattle.
Just make sure your story contains the flavor of laugh, pain, seriousness, or fun. Because, these things add emotions into your story and make a person listen to you intently.
If he has a habit of giving you solutions rather than sharing things, then storytelling solves this problem too. He participates in the conversation rather than imposing his own opinions and advices.
The one more advantage of emotional story telling is that, it doesn’t let the human brain wonder. Researches have proved that, during conversations, a human mind wonders almost 30% of the time.
In addition, the initial 20 minutes of every conversation are critical. Because, they decide the interest level. If your story can infatuate the interest level of your man within the first 20 minutes, then he will keep on listening to you for at least 1 hour.
His mind and emotions engages with you, and your words, completely. He asks you questions, takes interest in your words, and starts sharing his own opinions too.
Let’s talk about the essences of a great emotional story.
1) A story should always have a ‘Powerful’ opening. You have to rock his world with your powerful initial lines in order to get his attention. Sometimes, an open compliment and encouraging words also work like a miracle.
2) Take advantage of the initial 20 minutes. If you can keep him curious within the first 20 minutes, then you can make him listen to you for hours.
3) As I said before, add the flavor of laugh, pain, romance, or fun must. These ingredients are necessary for an interesting story.
4) Your story should have an agenda. If you are sharing your feelings during the first ¾ part of the time, then ask for his advice and opinions too in the last ¼ part. This will boost his masculine ego and make him feel respected.
5) The more “Elements of Surprises” your story contains, the more your man stays curious, the more he listens to you, and the more he gives you time.
6) Make a list of at least 3 important questions or topics from your daily routine. This will help you to start an interesting conversation/story always.
7) Never let him predict the end. If he can predict the end of the story, he won’t have any reason to listen to you for hours.
These 7 points always bring your A+ Game in every conversation. Your man and others listen to you whole heartedly and desire to spend time with you. They don’t get what secret you hold, but they know that the time they spend with you is utterly meaningful.